Finding yourself single again after what seems like a life time of marriage and being over 50 can feel like falling down the proverbial well. Almost half of women over the age of sixty live alone compared to only one out of six men. Dating sure has become a different animal in the last couple or three decades. Today it is not unusual to see a grandmother buying condoms along with her Metamucil or denture cleaner. Older men are also a bit confused by modern dating etiquette, and are somewhat uncertain as to whether to be chivalrous, treat their female date with the same consideration as a male friend, or go dutch treat.
Most of us would like to believe that we can come back from the ashes of a previous relationship a few times, but after a while, with little luck, hope will no longer seem so spring eternal anymore. Finding the right man or women in your golden years is no easy task, you find more Mr and Mrs Wrongs than Rights. And all of them seem to talk about are their medical problems a lot ('ha' like I don't have my own).
I have met some funny (strange) people during my dating experiences. One guy fawned over me to the point of nausea Another only talked about his kids, grand kids, and sports he was into, to the tune that we never spent any time talking about me at all. It may have been nerves, but what came through was an overly dominant 'all about me' personality that I ran from as quickly as possible.. You will often have to sit through an obnoxious evening of stories about their current job or past profession, their deceased wife, ex girl friends, how good they are in bed, and how their piles are inflamed and they cannot sit for another minute. Oh, and to top it all off, proceed to tell you that they have a new prescription for Viagra.
And its just as discouraging for the men. The most recurring male horror story is the woman who is trying to control from the first date, or someone who is in such a hurry to set their hooks in that they are trying to move in after a couple of weeks. All of these are symptoms of a fundamental incompatibility with each other from the get-go.
So why is it so tough to find a match when you are a senior? Life is purported to be simpler as you age. For some reason this does not fully apply to seniors dating. What is the source of the problem? We should be very good by now at socializing with other people because we have had so much more practice! It is not as if we do not know what we want. Why should it be so difficult? Could it be we have our standards set too high? I doubt it! Seniors want the same things that the younger set are are searching for in a relationship. They all want:
1) Someone To Listen
2) Someone To Care
3)Someone Interesting
4)Someone Compassionate
5)Someone Loving
6)Someone Understanding
7)Someone Compatible
8)Someone With Similar Interests
9)Someone With similar Values
10)Someone To Share Our Lives With
11)Someone Who Respects Me
12)Someone I Can Respect
Is that asking too much?
After discussing my problems with several of my closest friends. My friends suggested that I try one of the hundreds of senior dating sites available online. I have to say that I was loath to try a dating site, but after some encouraging input from my friends, and after spending too many nights alone talking to my cockatiel, who by the way has a bigger vocabulary then some of the men I have dated recently, I decided to give it a go. I turned on my computer and googled senior dating sites. There were so many that I was taken aback.
It was a little confusing for me at first. As I said, there were so many sites I didn't know which one to try, I was completely out of my league. I explained this to my friends and one of them suggested a place to start. This site is a dating site rating service. They have tested thousands of dating sites, and have a list of the sites that they recommend. All of them are categorized to make it easier to select. My friend said that she had signed up to a couple of the recommended sites just to make sure that she would find someone fast.
She said that is how she met her boyfriend. Here I was thinking that she met this great guy at work, boy was I taken aback. So I gave them a try, it was simple I just entered my profile information, and the site did most of the rest of the work for me. Pretty soon I find myself matched to several interesting guys, and they can all actually carry on an intelligent conversation. I'm in dating heaven! For the first time in years I am actually going out with interesting men and it's so exciting, life really does get better with age.
If you are approaching your golden years and you are looking for someone to share your love and life with, then take the first step. Follow the link below and sign up to one of the recommended sites. You'll be glad you did.
http://www.top100datingpersonals.com/seniordating.php
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